February 2012
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Big Deal > Talk
All I wanna do is talk But...
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Oof. Tonight’s date was awwwwwful.
This guy did everything wrong. He talked about his Ex (make that Ex-Wife) within the first 10 minutes and then for every 10 minutes thereafter. He kept watching the door because he was afraid he was going to run into another Ex. Dude spent two hours talking about how Portland is not New York City (um, yes, it’s true: Portland is not New York City)....
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I Kid You Not
In October, I was breezing through a design magazine when I saw a short interview with a very handsome man. He was recently named CEO of an local outdoor apparel company that happens to be based in the city I live.
I immediately tore out the page and said half-jokingly to my friend, “Oh my gosh, this is my dream guy.” This was fairly uncharacteristic of me; I’m not the type...
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I had a great date with Mix Tape last night. We met for drinks at a great bar he picked out. He was better looking in-person than I expected (which says a lot because he already looked handsome in his profile) and so, so sweet. He was really interested in learning about me, he asked thoughtful questions and dolled out compliments. It was one of the best first date conversations I’ve had. He...
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I have a date tonight.
And I’m particularly excited about this guy. He is younger than me by two years (a first!), but has a great job in public media, boyish good looks and excellent taste in music. We’ve exchanged a number of witty messages and texts and I sense if it all translates, we may have very good chemistry.
I keep trying to tell myself not to get too excited. Because...
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A succinct answer to why we broke up:
In the end, Em. and I wanted different things: He wanted to be an asshole and I didn’t want to date an asshole.
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What I Know About Love Now that I'm in My 20s →
“I spent hours in diners with best friends debating whether I should end things with a guy, even though I subconsciously already knew the answer. That internal voice is actually there, and it’s telling you what you know you need to do, even if you don’t want to know. Warning: It’s usually pushing the most difficult option, the one that will give you the most peace in the...
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Oh, the irony of my therapist not calling me back to schedule an appointment for me to talk to her about why boys don’t call me back!
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Sh*t People Say That I Hate
1. “You don’t need to be thin. Guys don’t like skinny girls anyways!” Yeah, thanks, but I don’t actually want to be skinny for some guy; I want to be skinny for me.
(And by “skinny”, I mean I want to be lean; my body is muscular and thick. And also, that’s a rude comment to make. Skinny women are beautiful, too.)
2. “You don’t need to...
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On Composure, Pt. II
A follow-up to “On Composure” :
There is little I can do to make this situation with Em. better but there is a lot I can do to make it worse. Sometimes, doing nothing is the best only thing you can do.
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Today I discovered Em. is already dating someone already.
I noticed he recently friended a girl on Facebook and over the last week, she’s liked just about every thing he posted on Facebook. I tried to not let myself jump to conclusions but my intuition told me something was going on. Then today I saw pictures on her wall of she and him at the Oregon coast.
Em. and I talked about going to...
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The Climber is back in the picture.
I signed up again for OK Cupid and within 24 hours, I received a message from The Climber (see brief intro or tagged posts). I went on 4-5 dates with The Climber back in the fall and we had a good time; neither of us were looking for anything serious; it was just casual and fun. I stopped seeing him when I started to develop feelings for Em. and we became...
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Me: I went out with Kate last night to White Eagle. She got a guy's number.
My buddy Nayland: Of course she did, she's a pretty girl in a bar.
Me: I didn't get a guy's number.
Nayland: [Silent, continues to file papers]
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Post-Break Up Routine
Everyone has a post-break up routine. In Sex & The City, Carrie called up her fuck buddy. I have friends who swear off dating for a few months and other friends who sign up for Match the next day. Some girls eat ice cream, some girls eat nothing. (You get the point.)
My post-break up pattern, the best I can tell, is to do the following immediately after a relationship ends:
Cut and color my...
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The End with Em.
Last night Em. and I finally talked and officially ended things. It was the most mature, kind, and honest conversations we have had in the last 7 months. If only we were able to talk with each other like that when we were in the relationship, we probably would not be out of it.
If I learned only one thing from the conversation it was this: I didn’t know shit.
If you asked me to tell the...